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rispacooper) wrote2004-10-13 03:19 pm
rispacooper) wrote2004-10-13 03:19 pm
*rant*
Nothing but drama and tension here. And somehow, I am to blame for it, simply for existing and being myself I have managed to somehow upset my sister's soon to be mother-in-law. It basically went down like this. I was supposed to be maid of honor at sister's (completely white trash) wedding. However, due to financial concerns and other things, I couldn't get much time off work in the past few months to drive (several hours)to go visit her a lot. So her best friend and co worker took over a lot of the responsibilities. (She also scheduled *her* wedding two weeks before my sister's...very classy...Bitch). So fine, we're sharing jobs, but the wedding shower was mine so I wanted to plan something fun.
Apparently, this is not allowed. As in, the groom's family is large and full of distant yet pushy women relatives who *have* to be invited to this and to the wedding even though the bride and groom cannot afford a big wedding. But hey, the wedding is my sis' problem, she needs to stand up to them. She doesn't, so I can't, so I plan large event, draining my bank account and taking up all of my time. Future mom-in-law keeps calling me (sometimes twice a day) to "ask" if she can help. I tell her to bring a few things, maybe some more chairs if she has them etc... She keeps calling. And calling. And then calling her daughters and my sister telling them to call me so I'll call her back. (I work two jobs, she stays at home all day. She can suck my ass for that shit, and that's not the worst of it). So then, shower day, all her relatives show up, proceed to sit in the living room and not talk to anyone but themselves, not eat anything, not play any games, not even make small talk. Then they leave. I find out two days ago they were deliberately acting this way because they "side with Debbie" (mom in law) in the fucking imaginary fight that we're apparently having because I "hurt her feelings." Not one of these women was under 40 by the way. I had to throw a ton of food out.
My mother, because she apparently had some sort of female bonding experience with Debbie, now takes her side as well, saying I should have called her more, and then yelled at me not to be rude to them all at the wedding!!! Excuse the fuck out of me, but I was not the one with no manners. I am only to rude to bitchy customers and sexist/racist/homophobic types. I know how to behave myself.
Not that I will now. Oh I'm not going to be openly rude, but drunk off my ass and catty as hell. None of this of course, has anything to do with the fact that on my sister's bachelorette party invitation her best friend is now listed as matron of honor. Mmm Hmm, that's how I found out I'd been bumped. Not even a phone call. And I'm expected to continue running errands all week for them. Getting up at 3 to go get flowers, spending the last of my money on wine for this event.... I am so angry. And there's no way i don't end up looking like the asshole here, so I guess I should do whatever the fuck I want.
I'm gonna be fucking trashed. It's gonna be sweet. And if that...woman...if any of them try to talk to me, I am walking away. I honor the family because I'm a Catholic, dammit, but I am not listening to their bullshit.
aaaaaHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!
on a side note, Sesshomaru could eat a baby's head and I would find it the hottest thing ever.
Apparently, this is not allowed. As in, the groom's family is large and full of distant yet pushy women relatives who *have* to be invited to this and to the wedding even though the bride and groom cannot afford a big wedding. But hey, the wedding is my sis' problem, she needs to stand up to them. She doesn't, so I can't, so I plan large event, draining my bank account and taking up all of my time. Future mom-in-law keeps calling me (sometimes twice a day) to "ask" if she can help. I tell her to bring a few things, maybe some more chairs if she has them etc... She keeps calling. And calling. And then calling her daughters and my sister telling them to call me so I'll call her back. (I work two jobs, she stays at home all day. She can suck my ass for that shit, and that's not the worst of it). So then, shower day, all her relatives show up, proceed to sit in the living room and not talk to anyone but themselves, not eat anything, not play any games, not even make small talk. Then they leave. I find out two days ago they were deliberately acting this way because they "side with Debbie" (mom in law) in the fucking imaginary fight that we're apparently having because I "hurt her feelings." Not one of these women was under 40 by the way. I had to throw a ton of food out.
My mother, because she apparently had some sort of female bonding experience with Debbie, now takes her side as well, saying I should have called her more, and then yelled at me not to be rude to them all at the wedding!!! Excuse the fuck out of me, but I was not the one with no manners. I am only to rude to bitchy customers and sexist/racist/homophobic types. I know how to behave myself.
Not that I will now. Oh I'm not going to be openly rude, but drunk off my ass and catty as hell. None of this of course, has anything to do with the fact that on my sister's bachelorette party invitation her best friend is now listed as matron of honor. Mmm Hmm, that's how I found out I'd been bumped. Not even a phone call. And I'm expected to continue running errands all week for them. Getting up at 3 to go get flowers, spending the last of my money on wine for this event.... I am so angry. And there's no way i don't end up looking like the asshole here, so I guess I should do whatever the fuck I want.
I'm gonna be fucking trashed. It's gonna be sweet. And if that...woman...if any of them try to talk to me, I am walking away. I honor the family because I'm a Catholic, dammit, but I am not listening to their bullshit.
aaaaaHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!
on a side note, Sesshomaru could eat a baby's head and I would find it the hottest thing ever.
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Well I have this to say.
The groom's mom doesn't really have any business sticking her nose in the bridal shower plans. She offers to help out of politeness, shows up, brings present and then goes home. The groom's mom doesn't have any kind of place in the whole affair, really. At my brother's wedding, my mother was invited to go up with A's mom and light a unity candle, but that's it. The shower was given by A's mom and bridesmaids without any of us butting in. Basically, the groom's mom is just a guest at shower and wedding. The groom might walk his mom down the aisle and sit her down before he goes to the altar, but that's really the extent of her importance. It's *your* mom who actually should have the prominate place. Your mom - or your brother - should even be walking your sister down the aisle. Even if she's not paying for it or isn't helping, your mother is by defualt Teh Boss of the whole thing - shower and wedding - and Groom's Mom is overstepping her place.
It's a territorial thing. She just doesn't rightfully have control over the whole affair. Until one of her own daughter's gets married, she needs to suck it up. It's a matter of etiquette. Being a bitch at the bridal shower because you didn't confer with her is complete bullshit.
Quite frankly, the *groom* doesn't have all that much importance in the whole thing, let alone his mother.
Secondly, if your sister wanted you to do all these errands and things, she should have had the wedding in your area. We had this fight with J, and we put the smackdown on Sacramento wedding.
I'm sorry you were demoted. That reflects more on your sister and her friends than you. Your sister will probably regret the whole thing anyway. What's really irritating is that they can have a half-assed crap wedding, but *YOU* have to go all out, spend money, etc.
*buys you a virtual drink*